partner conversation
perfect for business partners, spouses, co-leaders or any kind of relationship
This exercise helps partners build understanding and alignment, fostering deeper conversations and mutual respect.
share and compare values
start here
if both people in the partnership haven’t done the individual reflection first, proceed here to do that exercise. Then return to the partner conversation
partner 1 values
partner 2 values
step 1
each person lays out their values in front. If any are shared, they can be in a middle column. It is not necessary that any values are shared.
shared values
partner 1 values
partner 2 values
step 2
each partner takes turns talking about their unique values and explaining:
what it means to them
how is shows up
when they notice it the most
partners discuss and ask questions to deepen understanding of the other person.
step 3
move to the shared column and see if there is commonality in the meaning of the shared values. If there are differences, understand and discuss.
partner 1
“I value acceptance and empathy so I often don’t challenge decisions I disagree with.”
partner 2
“I think because i value courage, i sometimes don’t see the need for acceptance. I see how that might make you feel since it is your value”
step 4
explore how have these values within your partnership influences your dynamic in:
decision making
problem solving
flexibility or rigidity
congratulations!
you have deepened your understanding with your partner. Write your partner’s values on the _______’s values card provided in the deck and keep it where you can remind yourself of understanding each other better.
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yes! we have designed the cards and provided instructions on the website so that you can get a deep and introspective experience on your own. You can always reach out to us if you want to schedule a session with a coach to explore values further and see what else they connect to.
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we sincerely believe that self-awareness and self-acceptance are foundational to confidence and growth in leadership. By putting names to the values you live each day, you unlock the next level of awareness and agency over your perspectives, thoughts, feelings and actions.
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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS.
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for individuals, we recommend at least an hour to make good progress. you may still refine over the next few days.
for partners or teams, we recommend a minimum of 90 minutes.
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only you can know if they are “right”. After completing the exercise, we strongly recommend having the “my values” card available for 2 weeks and checking back frequently to see if you feel like your decisions and actions are in alignment with the words you chose or if you feel others are better.
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having a top 5-6 is ok, but more than that is difficult to connect to on a daily basis. if you'd like support in refining, schedule a session with a coach and we’ll help you get there.
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Why Values Matter
Values are at the heart of everything we do. They give us clarity, provide a sense of purpose, and guide our actions. When we live in alignment with our values, we feel more connected—to ourselves, to others, and to the world around us.
Gain clarity
about what’s most important, we help you get more focused on your work and space.
Deepen connections
with others by sharing and understanding each other’s priorities.
Enhance alignment
about what’s most important, we help you get more focused on your work and space.